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Can I Ever Fall in Love- With Myself

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We all scream #self-love, but can we truly say we love the manor woman staring back as us in the mirror. Can we sincerely say we have stopped the self loathing, self comparison and self derogatory thoughts??

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Now why we try to get over the swooning caused by how fine the guy in the picture above is, I have discovered that we might want to put up a front of self love even tagging it as our caption on IG ,Facebook and twitter but the fact is it doesn’t come easy to live up to what you profess.

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I for one have carved an image of not caring what people think of or about me ,an image of been myself whether anyone likes it or not. An image of not been affected by the actions of others, an image of not needing others. Does this sound familiar to you? Yea am sure it does!! But the fact remains that no matter how closed off we seem to be about other people’s actions the fact is that it affects us, it hurts us at times. We try to keep up the self love euphoria but it is waning out, the fire is quenching. We’re losing ourselves, we are hurting ourselves and we are killing ourselves so slowly yet without noticing it.

Self love is all about loving yourself and been true to yourself, it’s all about doing things that brings you joy irrespective of other’s opinions. It’s seeing yourself as the ultimate good, I feel we’re beginning to mask this concept as an avenue to not put an effort into developing one self, we use it as an excuse to live our worst lives yet, we use it as an excuse to ruin friendships and relationships. Now I am guilty of this as well, I am of the belief that loving ourselves shows in our ability to take decisions that develops and pushes us to be the best we can be both physically and in character whilst also developing our relationships and friendships. We can all not be perfect, it’s OK to be hurt ,angry, annoyed and scared but it’s also OK to pick yourself up and work on yourself and see that challenge as a stepping stone to greatness. It’s OK to not push yourself to hard,it’s OK to be tired of everything but it’s also OK to refuse to allow the world and things in it weigh you down but rather you can choose to walk with your head held up high because the world has no choice that to work in your favour.

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Self love means been you , but when you know there are areas or parts of you in need of change don’t shy away from creating a change that will improve your physical, mental and spiritual well being. You might need to cut off that person, you might need to start that gym class, you might need to drop that habit, you might need to put more effort . Just do it, be the perfect person you have always wanted to be , be the mentor you’ve always wanted to have. Be the model you have always admired, be the book worm and professor you have always loved. There’s a difference between self loathing and self improvement. Improve and work on things in your life that you feel needs to be worked on but don’t go hating on yourself for things you cannot change. Love the things about you that can’t be changed,embrace it and work with it the best way possible.

Be who and what you love❤

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About the author; Abbey is a mental health blogger with a love for writing and turning words into emotions. She brings and talks about issues relating to both life and relationships in general. You can connect to her @lifeandrelationshipsissues.wordpress.com and on twitter at  https://mobile.twitter.com/abbeyabbey110    

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Abbey! Yes, girl, YES!! Self love is so important. I want everyone to do something for you today, if not today, then soon! That might be take a bath, take a walk, talk to someone you haven’t in a while and be friends again, go get your nails/hair or anything you want done! I plan on getting a massage soon, because well, #selflove.

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#BellLetsTalk Day

Everyone! It is #bellLetstalk day! It’s a mental health campaign to raise awareness. Please if you are suffering now reach out to someone to help.

Some days I could sleep all day,

I don’t get up for work,

I don’t get up to make food,

I don’t get up to shower,

I sleep or cry,

Until I can’t no more.

Feeling alone,

But I know I’m not,

I have family and friends,

But I don’t want to bother them,

Why am I sad,

I have everything I want.

Why am I angry,

I have everything I need.

Why do I care what others say,

They shouldn’t matter, should they.

I am normally a happy person,

But some days I am not.

Just let me sleep and it will be better tomorrow.

Thanks for reading.

Sunday Stills: Night

Night, you used to scare me.

Nightmares. Flashbacks.

Are the doors locked?

Dad’s home, right?

He won’t come back.

You are safe.

He will no longer hurt you.

You will be fine.

Don’t tell me how I should be.

I am me.

Don’t yell at me.

I’m lost.

I’m good now.

Night used to scare me.

Entry for Sunday Stills hosted by Hugh’s Views and News.

 

 

 

In a Funk

I have been writing a lot this week and I have not posted because for the first time it is personal, like real personal! I have wrote, deleted and rewrote again and again. Today is the day I am just going to lay it all out on the line.

Please remember that these are my own thoughts/feelings and everyone is different. The way I handle my life could be much different than the way you do, and that is okay.

Lets go for a 2 for 1. First part will be what I wrote this morning and then the second one is what I have been writing all week.

This week I have been in a funk! I feel like I can’t do anything right, just want to sleep and do nothing! I have more and more idea’s that I want to do and I know I should do after work, but all I do is go home take a nap then stay up and watch TV. How lazy! Maybe it is because Ethan, my son is with his dad this week. Who knows the reason, but I feel like today is the day I will get out of this funk because Ethan will be home when I get off work!

It has either been raining or super hot here and I cant get outside when I should be. The sun honestly makes me a happy person! Sometimes I think of moving, but I would miss my family way too much!

Actually today is my moms last day at her job, she is retiring! Congratulations mom!

Well my writing has been all over the place during this blog, but that’s okay because its mine.

I want to be a better person I feel terrible about this week because I have been moody and just physically and emotionally not there. Sorry.

NOW on to the weekend! No work! All Fun, I hope.

It is okay to take depression medication! For my entire life I have been on some sort of depression medication or have actively tried to stay in a positive/upbeat mood!

Some people will be shocked to hear that I am sure, but that is okay. I am okay with saying I have been depressed and I have taken medication to help with it. I am stable. I am able to work, take care of my son and just be a normal human when I take my medication. Some days are not easy, but I always get through it.

There have been many suicides, and mental illness coming out in famous people, but don’t forget those that aren’t famous! We always talk about it more once someone famous has taken their life or is in the hospital. That just honestly drives me crazy! Everyday someone is depressed and if you just take a minute to ask how others are you could bright up their day!

One of the main reason I started this blog is to get comfortable about writing about hard stuff like depression, suicide, hospital visits, abuse, rape, and feelings. This is my first time actually writing and publishing for others to see and read how I feel about this.

Main objective of this post is YES, it is okay to take medication and do not stop taking the medication until a doctor can help you get off the medication, so that it doesn’t make matters worse.

That’s all I have on this subject for now, more, another time.

Thanks for reading.

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